Grief is the emotional response to any type of loss. It is often associated with the death of a loved one. Deep feelings of grief and loss can also result from the loss of any relationship. It could be a loss of a marriage, pregnancies or miscarriages, children, pets, jobs, even monetary things. Some losses are difficult to accept. Throughout an individual's lifespan, most people will experience a great loss at some point and time in their lives. Some people may be more psychologically and emotionally adjusted to handle losses, while others find it very difficult. In fact, statistics show that 1 in 5 children will experience the death of someone close to them before 18 years of age. No doubt feelings of grief can be overwhelming, and it can be hard to know how to manage and overcome emotions related to loss. It is important to have patience with yourself and others during the grief process. Channeling grief through a professional who is seasoned in navigating through grief and loss, can lead into a positive healing perspective. Everyone experiences loss differently based on their past experiences, personality, culture, and religious beliefs. Some people choose to seek support through their religious affiliations. Grief counseling can assist and support you through your grieving process, offering life adjustment support that could lead to inner peace. Eventually, most people move towards getting settled in their grief and become more accepting, even though it is a difficult experience to embrace. The timetable of grief and healing is different for everyone.
Common symptoms of grief may include:
- Shock and Disbelief: feeling numb about the event, having trouble believing it happened, denying it, or expecting to suddenly see the person you lost.
- Sadness: crying, or having feelings of emptiness, despair, yearning, loneliness, and even abandonment
- Guilt: regret over things said, unsaid or unfinished business, feeling responsible for a death or in the event of suicide, past abortions, or shame from feeling relieved by a person’s passing.
- Anger: blaming someone for injustice, blaming yourself, or the unique circumstances that transpired prior to the loss.
- Fear: feelings of uncontrolled anxiety, fear of death, feelings of helplessness, loss of control, feelings of insecurity, or becoming overwhelmed with fears.
- Physical Symptoms: fatigue, nausea, weight loss or gain, aches and pains, and insomnia.
Coping with Grief and Loss
An important part of healing is knowing that you are not alone. There are resources around you and people who have been through the grieving process and are willing to share their journey with you. It could be anyone, but there is support from family members, friends, and professionals who may understand the grief process better than you. Sharing your loss can make the grieving process more meaningful for your personal growth and life journey.